My Love of Liminal Spaces

I’ve always been attracted to liminal spaces. I love archways, courtyards, graveyards, and crossroads. I love stories about places that are in a time out of time or gateways to other worlds. So it is no wonder that as I continue to actively practice witchcraft, that I keep noticing just how much liminality plays into my craft.

Witchcraft and folk practices are filled with references to liminal spaces. How often do we see spells or superstitions telling us to put something in a doorway, window, or fireplace? How often do we see references to doing something at dusk, dawn, or midnight? How often do we read about crossroads, railways, graveyards, or even paths in the woods?

But I do not think it is enough to just blindly incorporate liminal spaces into one’s practice. Just like with every aspect of the craft it is important not to just blindly follow or copy, but to learn and understand the hows and whys of what we do. By researching and learning about liminal spaces, both in the folkloric and practical sense, we develop a greater appreciation and understanding of these spaces and, in turn, we can better work with them.

Right now, a lot of my work with Hekate has involved learning about crossroads. I knew a bit about crossroads before I started working with Her. I knew that crossroads were places you left not so nice spells, and that they were places people met to make deals with figures like the Man in Black or the Devil. But in working with Hekate, there is more to crossroads than I could have ever thought. The crossroads is a way to travel, it is a piece of an infinitely larger web connecting paths and places. To look back when leaving something at a crossroads is not only disrespectful because you might offend the being you are working with, but it is also a great sign of doubt. This is only the tip of the iceberg and I know I still have a lot more to learn. But I now have so much more respect for crossroads and what they represent.

The liminal space has become a sacred space for me. My circle is more than just a protective barrier. It is creating a place betwixt & between. I am between the mundane and spirit world, able to interact with both. My trance work is making my body into a liminal space, giving me that gateway to ride the hedge. The andalusite I wear around my neck is carrying the crossroads with me.

I firmly believe that to be a witch is to accept liminality as a permanent part of your life. It is always having one foot in the mundane and the other foot in the spirit world. I think that is why I love liminal spaces so much. Not only are they practical places to perform my magic, but there is also that sense of kinship, of home, when I am there. They are certainly not places to dwell, but they are not meant to be dwelled at. They are meant for travel, for moving forward. They are places that are beautifully betwixt & between. The liminal is sacred, belonging to no one, yet innately a part of all of us.

 

Tumbling into the Earth

Tumbling into the Earth

The sun has set behind the hedge
The gnats rise from the hay
I reach my hands into the grass
And fall into that ancient space

Like tumbling in water I tumble into the earth
Slowly drifting deeper into her embrace
Until I find myself suspended
For I have reached that ancient space

I cannot see but indeed I know
Aho! I say and you return
We greet each other
In this vast unknown

For a moment we know each other
Our greetings mix and turn
But then the moment is over
And I tumble out of the earth

Unlearning the New Age

Summer is a time when I end up doing a lot of reflecting about my practice. Six years in has given me a lot to reflect on. One of the things I’ve been thinking about lately is how much I’ve had to unlearn the New Age movement.

Back in high school when I was reading Cunningham and was learning tarot at lunch with my friends, the New Age movement was where I was doing a lot of my learning. I had quite a few occult and holistic shops near me to get crystals and other things that I thought I needed. The older generation Pagans and witches I was interacting with were very much of the love and light variety and just kept pointing me towards Neo-Wicca. Everything I was reading was filling my head with how everything I was meeting was a sign on my path. Books were telling me that every animal could mean something, that angels or guides were trying to contact me, mediumship books told me the dead were always crossed over and peaceful.

Yeah. There were a lot of hard lessons coming down the pipeline that the New Age movement did next to nothing to help me with. I do a lot of head shaking too when I look back at it all. But lately I have been thinking about just how anthropocentric the New Age movement is and how much it conflicts with my current animist understanding of the world.

Anthropocentrism refers to a human-centered worldview, which places human beings as the most important entities in the universe and thus the universe is interpreted only in terms of the human experience and human values. It’s also something I’ve been working to overcome the past year or so and will probably always be checking myself on.

How I interpret the New Age movement is that it teaches people that everything exists to benefit them on their path. Everything is a personal sign, every person has a lesson to teach, every spirit willing to help you and share their wisdom with you, every culture open for you to unlock its mysteries. It teaches that every person is a part of the great big universe and has the power to demand of the universe whatever they want. Needless to say I find the New Age movement pretty damn toxic these days.

As I have really started to work as an animist (and a witch really) at a higher level than just a general belief, what I am experiencing really kicks the New Age worldview in the teeth. If I am going to say that everything has a spirit, then there is a level of autonomy I need to recognize.

With spirits this realization came pretty quickly. It doesn’t take long to figure out that a lot of spirits want nothing to do with people or want something in return for working with you. And that is just fine by me. If a spirit and I can strike a deal, then we work together that way. Sometimes a relationship just doesn’t work out and a spirit ends up being a real piece of work. I would rather be realistic when working with spirits and respect their boundaries and independence than think that every spirit I meet is a guide or wanting to teach me something. This goes for me as well. I do not owe any random spirit the time of day just because they are a spirit either.

Animals were the next thing I needed to unlearn. The New Age really loves its animal dictionaries and animal totems. As an animist, I also want an educated understanding of nature. Anthropocentrism and the New Age told me that every animal was a sign and meant something. As an animist I now understand that unless it is a very rare and obvious sign, that animals are just being animals and not existing just for my benefit. I have a greater appreciation for the animals around me now that I understand why they are doing what they are doing and what that means in the larger scheme of things. Animals do have a lot I can and have learned from, but it takes patience and putting my own needs and interests pretty low on the ladder.

Plants and crystals are where I am currently working on things. As I am tending to my witch garden (even though I have grown things before) I am paying much more attention to just how complicated plants are and how much their spirits deserve my respect. There is so much more to my relationship to them than just asking briefly if I can cut off some leaves and leave a few coins as payment. I’m actually not harvesting as much because I want to work to build that relationship more before I do. Crystals are something that I am more so working on understanding when they come up. I don’t really buy into the New Age advertisements that these crystals can heal my organs or just putting one in my pocket will activate all their stored powers. But I am working to ask more when I do bring them into my practice.

Like I said, there’s been a lot of unlearning of the New Age over the years. I am a lot more critical of what I am learning and I would like to think I walk with a lighter step now too. I no longer understand myself as the center of my spirituality, but rather as a piece of a much larger world and it is in interacting with this world, taking a step back and really listening and watching that I learn and grow. I am not entitled to spiritual knowledge or experiences, I need to earn it and actually pay attention to what is going on around me, to see and feel empathy for more than just myself. That is what unlearning the New Age has taught me.

Avoiding my Ancestors

Ancestor work is one of those things that’s been in the back of my mind for awhile now and by awhile I mean about seven months. I’m at that point where I know working with my ancestors is something I need to start doing and I know I will eventually bite the bullet and get to it. But I fell like voicing my frustrations and hesitations is ultimately an important step in understanding my relationship to my ancestors.

I am by no means uncomfortable around dead people. I started working as a psychopomp around four years ago. Any discomfort I had faded pretty quickly and unless the dead are being super rude, I actually like hanging out with them. It isn’t like I never talked to my family members that have crossed either. If we visited their grave or they were hanging around I would chat with them. It was, and in many ways still is, a bittersweet thing, but still something I enjoyed doing.

Despite occasionally working with and chatting with the dead, the idea of actually setting up a space for my ancestors never really crossed my mind until this past Fall. My University’s Pagan Student Association was just getting on its feat and we decided to do a Dumb Supper ritual in October. It went really well, but I was only expecting to chat up my grandparents that I was already used to chatting with. I wasn’t expecting, near the end of the meal, to get a very clear, collective voice telling me “one of your grandfathers will be joining us soon.” It was at this point focused ancestor work was really put on my radar. I was still very much confined to dorm life but I definitely took more notice of ancestors when they came up in blog posts or books.

True to their word though, my grandfather’s cancer came back a few months after that ritual. I was at school the majority of time he was getting worse. However, several times I found myself being pulled out of my body before going to bed to visit him. One of my greatest fears with all of this was that I would be the one who would cross him over. But as the weeks went on, I was more sure that was what was going to happen. He ended up passing while I was at home over Spring break. I did end up helping him cross. It hurt. Still does. My mom was the one giving him hospice care so we were able to bond and talk about what we both experienced.

With my grandfather’s passing came one of my biggest hesitations with fully committing to ancestor work, namely the Christian God. He and I have never really gotten along. I had a begrudging understanding with him and the archangels when I was working more actively as a psychopomp. I spent a little time having a bit of a mentor relationship with the archangel Uriel as well that Loki, who I am oathbound to, was always wary of but never interfered. But around the time of my grandfather’s passing, that already shaky relationship pretty much dissolved. I’m not upset about that relationship being over. The Christian God and the archangels were basically my bad ex that I kept going back to. However, it does make it a bit awkward now when I want to work with my ancestors who were devote Christians. In the back of my mind, I’m worried that those spirits will interfere or something like that.

One of my other main concerns is just who out of my ancestors is going to show up. There are some really disgusting people in my family’s history and I really don’t know what I would do if they showed up or if I would be willing to deal with the emotional burden of helping them change. I know that it is a common concern with ancestor work and my other ancestors would more than likely prevent those particular individuals from just popping in.

Regardless, ancestor work is going to be a learning process for me. I’m working to learn more about Norse ways of working with the ancestors as well as a more generic practice for my Christian ancestors. The gods are also pushing me to look more into seidr. For now there is a tiny altar set up in mine and mom’s shared meditation room. Currently it is focused on my grandfather, whom we both desperately need right now. I also know that regardless of tensions with certain spirits, that psychopomping is still going to be a part of my life.

No new practice is going to be painless.  But I’ve got to start somewhere.

Ethics & Spirit Work Part 1: Consent

Consent is, I would say, the foundation for the majority, if not all, ethical issues in spirit work. Frankly speaking, consent is incredibly complicated in spirit work, more so than it is in the physical world (and that is saying something). I will not be able to cover every issue of consent that may come up in spirit work. I honestly don’t think that would even be possible. Expect some broad strokes as a result. I am also going to try to keep this post written from the perspective of a human spirit worker in various situations. Some issues that are based in consent and permissions will have there own posts later down the line. Part 2 is one such post and will be dealing specifically with permissions and boundaries such as interacting with realms and spirits that other spirit workers interact with that are more niche or explicitly private to that worker’s practice.

When are you giving consent? 

It is not always clear when you are giving consent in spirit work. Not everything is going to operate by having you sign a contract or even tell you the details of what you are giving your consent to do.

A classic example of this is the Fae. The Fae often work on a system of favors. Owing a favor can be viewed as something unbreakable, that you are absolutely held to. However, it is very easy to accidentally get into a situation where you owe Fae favors. Saying something as simple as “thank you” can demonstrate to them that you would like to repay them for their help via a favor. The Fae also tend to be very aware of their cultural concept of favors and know how to use humans’ tendency  to be grateful, which  can often times be a habitual response more than anything else, to put humans in this position.

The Fae, therefore, are the textbook example of how consent is not always clearly worded but is still binding.  In other cases, even something as simple as not clearly refusing something can be viewed as giving consent by certain spirits.

Folklore and mythology are good starting points to understand how a spirit will approach wording. Obviously though, not every spirit is going to be in mythology. Therefore, as a general rule, neutral wording and clear intentions are a good idea. That doesn’t mean that you can never show spirits gratitude, but rather that you should be transparent with them about how you will show it and what your gratitude means. You should also assume that your wording in conversations may be used against you and plan accordingly.

Conditional and Temporary Consent

Spirit work can be a very situational practice. Spirit workers tend to meet and interact with a wide variety of spirits. These encounters can be frequent, seasonal, or even just one time affairs. Frequently changing conditions in the astral itself, political situations and alliances, and the company that the spirit worker is with can all affect whether or not a spirit will give consent in any given situation.

Universal consent is not something that is frequently given in spirit work. Spirits often have conditions that need to be met in order to agree to work with someone. These can vary in both complexity and transparency. Here are a few examples of conditional consent in spirit work.

1) Your friend, who is also a spirit worker, introduces you to a spirit that they have a partnership/agreement with. The spirit, because they are with your friend, agrees to work with you as an extension of their partnership with your friend. You would not be interacting with this spirit had your friend not acted as a middleman. You do not interact with this spirit unless your friend is around and if you do ask for the spirit’s help on your own, you get no response from them. This is an example of conditional consent. Here the friend is the condition because they are giving consent as well as their spirit partner. The spirit is primarily concerned with the partnership they have with your friend and working with you was doing something for the friend rather than just for you. This is a very common situation in spirit work, yet many people do not understand this boundary.

2) A few months ago you worked with a race of spirits. They allowed you to come to their realm and learn from their healers. You visited their realm rather frequently for a few weeks but your mundane life became very busy and you haven’t visited that realm in about two months. Last month however, you made a contract with another race of spirits. You feel a strong connection to them and were invited to become an honorary member of their society. You accepted and went through a small ritual. There is now a marking on your astral form’s hand indicating that you are a member. Later that week you decide to go back and learn from the healers. You are stopped before you can enter the realm’s city. They tell you that because of your alliance with the other society, that you are no longer welcome to learn this society’s techniques. This is a very simplified version of how alliances can affect consent. Alliances are not limited to being on opposing sides of a war. You might not even be aware of a conflict or contention existing. Ultimately though, especially in cases of learning something valuable and unique to a society, you need to respect their wishes regarding your access to the society.

3) You are in a difficult situation. None of your normal techniques or spirits you work with are able to help and you have become desperate to take care of this problem. You read in passing about a spirit that you think can help you. Not wanting to risk being rejected at this point, you prepare a very elaborate offering and evocation of the spirit.The spirit comes and helps you and then leaves without a second word. You were amazed by how effortlessly the spirit took care of the problem. You try to contact them again with less of an offering and do not get a response. You try again with a grander offering. The spirit appears and said that it only helped you the first time because it was bored and your offering looked appealing. However, if you want its help in the future it will demand an intense commitment from you, akin to strict worship otherwise it has no interest in you. This is an example of consent being in the form of self interest, consent being a one time deal, and consent being used to set up a much larger deal between the spirit and the human that may not have the best intentions.

These were only a few of many, many different situations a spirit worker can find themself in regarding consent. Conditions apply to nearly every agreement that is made in spirit work. Understanding what the conditions are, if you are able to know, helps you understand why spirits hold certain positions as well as how your own actions as a spirit work can affect spirits. Our actions do not exist in a vacuum and neither do the actions of spirits. We need to be aware of these ever changing conditions and be able to think critically about consequences. We also have conditions to our own consent and need to make sure that they are demonstrated.

Oaths, Bindings, and Promises

The last issue that I would like to touch on are serious promises made to spirits, occasionally known as oaths. I am talking about situations where a spirit worker has become bound in some way to a spirit, either through a promise or an oath that has now created a contractual binding between the two individuals.

Possibly the worst way (and also the easiest way) that a spirit worker may become bound to a spirit comes from language (similar to what happens with the Fae). The phrases will likely sound familiar: “I will do anything so long as…” “I don’t care what you want just do…” “Whatever I need to do for this I will, please…” Phrases like this normally come from moments of desperation. However, spirits might not always care about how your emotional state is affecting your vocabulary. To many of the types of spirits that look to make deals with people in desperate situations, anything means everything. They will take you at your word to give them whatever they want to help you and spirits can have long memories and creative minds. Your consent can very easily be manipulated and place you in a terrible situation that may be none to easy to get out of. Bindings like these are none too easy to get out of either and often take significant negotiation, banishing and magical work to break the binding, or making a deal with someone else to get rid of the first deal to remove them.

Oaths are another situation where consent becomes rather binding. Oaths are a much more conscious effort (usually) than the “anything promise” discussed above. Oaths also traditionally fall in the realm of deities and other deity-like beings who, even if not explicitly religious, spirit workers have a decent chance of rubbing shoulders with at some point in their practice. Oaths are much more contractual and ritualistic promises. (Worth noting again that I am painting broad strokes from my own experience) Oaths are something that need to be well researched and well thought out. They aren’t something that are intended to be broken or even have an explicit “out” if things go south (usually). They also have a good chance of not expiring, even after the spirit worker dies. Thus, it is best to take extreme care when considering an oath that has been offered or even collaborated on. It is a situation where your consent is tying you to another being in a very intimate way. Although this is only a very, very brief discussion of oaths, it is a reminder of how serious a situation we can willingly put ourselves in by giving consent.

In Summary

Consent is rather hard thing to pin down in spirit work. You might not be aware that you are giving your consent in a way that may bring about some hefty consequences. The conditions behind spirits giving you their consent might not always be obvious. There are ways that your consent can tie you to other beings.

In terms of ethics, awareness is the best policy when it comes to consent. This is in regards to both what you are asking of spirits and what they are asking of you. You also need to be able to respect the choice that spirits have to revoke their consent as well as your own choice to walk away from situations and not consent to things. Everything is going to be case by case. Consent is not that hard of a subject to grasp. However, the lessons established through consent based issues are the foundation for much more complex ethical situations that arise in spirit work.

Vacation Reflections: Water Spirits

Reflections and ramblings from my 2016 vacation in Florida.

I’m at the point in my practice as a spirit worker that my senses are pretty much always on or are very easy to access. Sensing spirits is like turning on a switch for me. There are instances where I turn off my senses, either out of respect or for my own safety or both. However, since I was on vacation, I figured that I was allowed a bit of sight seeing of the spirit variety.

My first day, or rather evening, in Florida made it very clear that I needed to respect nature in this place. I had landed after a delayed and turbulent flight, not exactly in a decent mood. However, it is tradition that we go out to dinner on the beach the day someone arrives. The restaurant was on the beach, and looking out towards the ocean. I have never seen such a picturesque image. The full moon was rising and was an unobscured beacon of light. Behind it large thunder clouds produced heat lightning. All of this was reflected on the ocean waves, rough because of riptide conditions, crashing against the pier. It was perfect and it was a reminder of who was in charge here.

The next day, we rented a boat and traveled along the inner-coastal. Canals weave together like alleyways in the city with rather expensive housing on either side. Soon after we left the docks, I spotted some merfolk. The looked more annoyed at us than anything, likely preferring the quite now that tourist season is mostly over and the canals mostly empty. Later in one of the areas where you were allowed to speed up, I spied water horses swimming to keep pace with the boat. I don’t think that they were hippocampi but I’m not familiar enough with water spirits to know one way or the other. I think that they mostly enjoyed the large wake of the boat more than anything.

Another day we went to the Everglades. I did not see any specific spirits here, but I did feel something. I have felt dying plant life before. I once made the mistake of trying to connect with a dying tree and the experience has stayed with me years later. The Everglades….felt a bit like that. They felt like decay, but not in the natural way. It was a reminder that nature can only take so much. Places that are considered natural wonders are not immortal. It was a somber reminder that I will not soon forget.

My final encounter with water was towards the end of my vacation. I have noticed that when I am outside and deeply connecting with nature, that I start singing and humming a song that was sung at a Lakota sweat lodge I participated in. I don’t remember much of it except a general tune but it’s a signal all the same. We had gone to the beach around dusk. I left to walk the beach on my own for a bit and began humming that song. I noticed that this beach had more tumbled stones than it did shells. One of my goals had been to find hag stones. I try to be aware of the environment in my craft though. I am teaching myself to only take what I need, and not what I want. I had picked up a fair few stones when I heard a spirit say “No more.” I agreed with them and stopped searching. Oddly enough, my grandmother, who had caught up to me and was actually combing the beach a ways ahead of me, also stopped looking at this point. On our way back I looked out toward the ocean. The spirit I saw could only really be described as a genius loci, a spirit of place. I feel like he was the spirit of the beach rather than of the ocean itself though. He was giant, easily a mile shoulder to shoulder. He was also very serious. I gathered that he was not happy with all of the people that took too many shells and stones, or left their trash in the sand to float out to sea. We didn’t talk much, this spirit and I. I doubt he has much interest in humans. Out of respect for his domain and a general respect for the land as a whole, I kept my word to take no more. I was tempted a few times and sternly reminded.

That was my last distinct encounter with water spirits on my vacation. Overall they left me with a clear message. One needs to have the highest respect for the land, wherever they are. It is not our role to take until there is nothing left, or to ignore the consequences of our lifestyles. The land is not immortal and it is not infinite. We need to be aware and be active in sealing the wounds we have torn open.

Pop Culture Work?

Pop culture work, that is pop culture magic, spirit work, astral work, etc., has been on the edge of my mind for quite some time. I have known that it was a practice for awhile now, but have never really delved into it personally. The more time that goes by, the more I am interested in it, though.

Media has had a fairly significant impact on my life. I never really had friends growing up, but was a heavy reader. When I was a bit older, I feel in love with video games for their ability to uniquely tell stories. A little after that I learned a bit about film and fell in love with the various ways that movies and television could tell a story. For a lot of my high school career, right up until I registered for college, I wanted to be a storyteller of some kind. That may have been an author, a screenwriter, or a filmmaker…I never full decided at the time. Regardless, immersing myself in media has been something that I have been doing for most of my life. I have had more heroes and more inspiration from fiction than I have from real life. Now as an active witch and spirit worker, pop culture work seems like it would be a damn good addition, right?

I think that there are a few reasons as to why I haven’t fully delved into pop culture work. Oddly enough, it isn’t disbelief. My woo life has made very little (with the exception of egotistical claims) too out there for me. Instead, I think the main reason that I hesitate is not knowing where to begin. Pop culture magic is easy enough to approach. That is just adapting something in media into my own practice. I would just need to go back and take a few notes. Pop culture spirit work though….I understand the basic concept but don’t really have any idea of how to get started. That and if I do meet a spirit from pop culture that I am interested in, I wouldn’t want to be weird about it. I have a bit of a tendency to fangirl with media I like…

I do think that I will be looking into pop culture magic possibilities in the near future. That means picking up the Wheel of Time series again, looking at Dresden Files magic in a bit more detail, and maybe casually watching some Charmed. Pop culture spirit work though will likely stay on the back burner. I already have so much to explore of the astral without adding in pop culture dimensions so for now it will wait.

I like keeping my practices adaptable and loose to a certain extent simply because I like having more than one trick up my sleeve. Pop culture work is certainly in my future with this kind of style. It’s also probably something you will see me writing about on here as I start practicing more.

Mentoring Young Spirit Workers

I’m going to start off by saying that I am by no means a master of spirit work. I am no elder, sage, or grand high poo-bah of the astral. I’m just a gal that’s getting close to doing spirit work for five years now and has made some observations about how to work with people just getting into this stuff. I’m also just as set in my ways as most other spirit workers are. This post is mainly in reference to knowing people face-to-face rather than over the internet.

Compared to other “woo” subjects, spirit work doesn’t really have a place in the public eye. Witchcraft is pretty well known in pop culture and a lot of people are aware that their are people that practice in real life, even if they aren’t sure what that practice entails. Mediums are also pretty well known in the public eye, but the majority of people think they are just scammers. Spirit work though, as in someone going to the astral and working with spirits that aren’t human or animal? That is something that is not nearly as common in the public eye. People might think of some “Ancient Native American Wisdom” (man, that was painful to write) but that is not a guarantee. What I am getting at is that if you are brand new to spirit work, especially if you don’t have any experience in other woo areas, you really don’t have a frame of reference for what’s going on around you.

So it makes sense that brand new spirit workers can be very excited when they meet someone that is more experienced than they are. I know I was super excited when I found the blog of someone that had been doing this for a few years. They introduced me to the term spirit work and helped me understand that what I was experiencing was something that others were too. It also let me know about some of risks and safety measures that I wasn’t even aware.

The question for me now though, is what do I do now that I am the experienced person and a new person is coming to me for advice? For me, the answer has been to be very general and ultimately try to get the person to do their own thing. Spirit work has a so much variety that really I can only speak in generalizations. The person will ultimately need to find out on their own how they best work with spirits and what kind of spirits they connect with. I can warn them to be cautious and to use discernment, but holding their hand is only going to make me a helicopter parent that refuses to let their kids learn things on their own. I can also teach them basic safety measures that they can modify themselves. I can also point them in the direction of good resources and warn them about bad ones. But other than some basic ground rules, etiquette, methods, and reading lists, I can’t do much more for a new person. I am one of those people that believes that you need to learn some lessons the hard way and sometimes you need to screw up so that you can learn from it.

I’m not saying that I am going to completely abandon a new spirit worker. If they have questions, I will answer them. (That is unless the person is excessive about their questions and is asking me for help for every single step of the way.) Something also worth noting is that spirit work can come in stages. Much of my work is currently done on the astral. That is the main way that I interact with spirits these days. I am not going to throw a new person into the astral just because that is what I am used to. I’m also someone that pushes working with spirit guides because they know what you need a lot better than I do.

One final note that I will make about this is about the mentor. Spirit work really doesn’t have a high retention rate in my experience. The amount of people that commit and make it to the two year or even one year mark is probably only around ten percent. While that can be for various reasons, I really don’t want to invest a ton of time and effort into someone that might not even continue down this path. I have also had quite a few people who have had either really bad egos or wanted to be seen as special to get attention. Me being vague protects my spirits and myself. I’m not going to deal with drama or egos when I have my own practice to get on with. The hands off approach tends to keep the people that really do want to practice spirit work  going and finding out about themselves, while also not feeding egos or feeding the people that just want attention.

That’s been my experience thus far with mentoring young spirit workers, or just being the more experienced person at the table. My opinion on all of this might change in the coming years, it might not. Ultimately I think that letting people find their own path with spirit work is the best course of action. I give them some basic tools and advice and have them figure out the rest. I am there if they need me, but I am not going to make students that end up looking just like their teacher.